I am playing with the idea of creating an emotional scale relative to change that is similar to the one Elizabeth Kubler Ross created to describe the stages of grieving.
My idea is that when I have an emotional scale, I can pinpoint the thoughts, beliefs, mindset etc. that is related to each emotional level. For example, to me personally, the worst emotion I can feel is fear. The worst meaning the most uncomfortable, helpless, fight, flight, freeze impulses are activated. I feel powerless and that all is out of my control.
Once I've identified this, I can set my intention to feel better. An improvement on fear that comes to me with a little bit of work to shift my perspective and release some blocks... so an easing of fear for me is to feel angry. Therefore anger is an improvement on fear. I stand back and look at my anger. I sometimes journal or go for a walk with the intention of releasing this anger.
You will notice that my work is to become aware of where I am so I can shift it to a better feeling place... to a perspective that leads me to release blocks and reclaim my personal power. The main block being opened up is the block created by the belief that I have to be able to control everything and everything must be the way I want it to be now.
Anger can be softened to irritation. Yes, one can be irritated at someone, something, oneself, and so on. Irritation is a miraculous progression from fear. In irritation, positive feelings and appreciation becomes more accessible... one becomes less resistant to noticing that somethings are working.
In irritation, I find it relatively easy to shift to disappointment. When I identify that I am disappointed in someone, myself, something, etc., it is easy for me to ask the question: what was I expecting here? I expected x to do or not to do something. I then shift into choosing to release the block that expectation causes. Expectation is wanting to control externals... wishing something didn't happen but it did. I can now do the work to forgive and to release expectation. This is where ho oponopono us a fantastic tool.
I am sorry that I expected this of you...
I forgive you for not living up to my expectations...
I forgive myself for expecting you to do/not do this...
I love myself for choosing to let this go...
(from tapping EFT)Even though I held this expectation, I completely love and accept myself
and so on.
This practice diffuses disappointment and helps me own my power. I realize I don't need to control anyone or anything but my own consciousness and experience. I am now in a position to climb up a positive emotional scale. This is done by appreciation. The real magic/miracle is I can experience better by finding anything to appreciate. My choice is usually appreciating the essence... i.e. noticing that in essence I have what I wanted e.g. I wanted to feel connection and now I feel reconnected to my personal power.
I also appreciate how I moved myself from a consciousness that activated fear to one that is appreciative. I appreciate the miracle and am now free to focus on what awarenesses increases my joy.
